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Sex – a great product! Read the Manufacturer’s directions, do what it tells you, and it works!


Take a stroll out of your house, and the onslaught begins. It steps right in front of you – parading long, luscious legs and a short, tight skirt that rides every movement of her hips. You look up to distract yourself from thoughts invading your mind, and see a billboard that only entices you further. You run to the comfort of your friends and eventually the conversation turns to the opposite sex – conquests are shared, frustrations expressed, advice is given and you are laughed at because you haven’t done it!

That night you go to a movie (or even church); it is rated PG, but the upcoming attractions are not. Most of them sell sex, and you are sitting with your arm around your “boo”  whose skin is warm and soft, her perfume sweetening the aura of her femininity – or you’re snuggling close to a guy who exudes strength. Your mind is going where it shouldn’t go, your flesh itching for it; she’s not your wife…he is not your husband.

Sex sells. Did you forget to read the memo? You don’t need a prophetess clad in nothing but skin to enlighten you. Grab the television remote for a few minutes of channel surfing, and watch with wide-eyed wonder as it is used to market everything from cars to toothpicks. Go on the Internet, type in an innocuous word, and without warning you’re offered titillating sights and experiences you never knew existed – or you NOW wish you never knew.

Our postmodern culture denies all absolutes, cries for tolerance toward everyone and everything except the Word of God, and encourages people to do what is right in their own eyes. Religion is routine, the bible is a bunch of boring babble and much preaching is more of questioning the veracity of God’s word rather than living in the fear of God. In such a world, many, even in the church, are ignorant about the consequences of sex outside God’s parameters.

Starting from Genesis 2:24 we see the union of Adam and Eve. The key for us here is the phrase … be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. It is interesting to note here for those who support homosexuality that both man and woman had the purpose of procreation wired into their design. Two men, no matter how determined, cannot have sex and produce a child. Neither can two women. But heck, what do I know… since animals are doing it, let us join them. Right?

So what does one flesh mean?

God explains it very clearly in 1 Corinthians 6:15-18 (Read it). It is so incredible, so awesome: Sex, by God’s design, is becoming one flesh. It starts with a recognition that we are made in God’s image, that we are His temple. A proper understanding that your body belongs to Christ gives fresh insight when looking at sex. When God made Adam and Eve distinctively male and female, He designed them anatomically so they could physically become one flesh in the act of sexual intercourse.

God didn’t have to make sex pleasurable (so sweet – not like I know sef)! He could have designed it to be very mechanical with the following instructions:To make a baby, first do this, then that, and follow with this. Be careful of such and such. Nine months later, give or take a few days, you should produce a child; if not, repeat entire process till successful. No! Sex has a beauty all its own and – wonder of wonders! – God invented it. Hormones, nerves, sensory receptors and other specific physical characteristics (ask Google or your friends in Medicine) are all part of His divine design for our pleasure in the physical oneness of MARRIAGE.

WE need to understand that sex, in its purest form, brings the intimacy of not only belonging to another but longing for the presence of our beloved. In its hallowed purity, that union becomes a holy metaphor for the oneness of Christ with the church.

Our standard is God’s word. So If it doesn’t line up with the Word of God, without exception it is not from God – no matter who says it, no matter how godly that person seems or how much it looks as if God is using him or her. And God’s word in Ezekiel 16:8 treats the intimacy between man and wife as a covenant.

“later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your naked body. I gave you my solemn oath and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine. – Ezekiel 16:8

A covenant is a solemn, binding agreement between two parties who commit themselves to each other under certain conditions. As you must have read in 1 Corinthians 6 when we enter sexual relations haphazardly we are entering into covenants with our sexual partners. Sex is a solemn arrangement such that God becomes the sovereign administrator of every covenant, watching to make certain its conditions are fulfilled. Failing to keep the covenant promotes immorality. No one is saying sex is evil, but we have abused it so much.

We have neglected the covenant aspect of sex. Virgins are compared to unicorns. Men cleverly craft lies regarding sex and try to replace the truth of God with a lie. Guys are told that there is nothing like a virgin guy. Girls are hassled into believing guys only want ladies who are experienced in bed. Tragically, as a result, sex has erupted more and more frequently in other ways – STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), AIDS, abortions, and even hysterectomies because of too many sex partners or botched abortions. Many have been burned by sex or watched in disbelief as it is exploded into horrific consequences!

God invented sex, and He is a God of good and perfect gifts. But sex is high, holy – so sacred, so finely tuned in its creative power that this is where our sinful nature is most likely to cause us to self-destruct.

What if you fail or have failed to follow the Manufacturer’s guide and get burnt in the process? Well we are here to offer first aid. There is hope no matter how far you have deviated either unintentionally or willfully from what is right. There is hope no matter what has been done to you sexually. You can recover; your loved ones can recover. Our society can recover. Return to God, accept His Son and believe that your past is past. He really does make ALL THINGS NEW. Read the book of Hosea.

It was said of William Wilberforce that he made godliness fashionable. The time is ripe for us to encourage piety and virtue and prevent vice, profaneness and immorality. This is God’s business – the business of Redemption.

In summary we can take a few things home

  1. God invented sex for procreation and pleasure.
  2. Sex is a covenant only operable within the confines of marriage, a beautiful covenant between man and wife.
  3. God’s grace is sufficient for us as we resist the urge to give in to the world’s theories.

Let me end with this beautiful quote by Orekoya

“Sex is a holy, sacred and eternal bond, never to be severed. People continue to abuse this, and wonder what is wrong in their lives. It’s about two temples, coming together; temples worthy of worship.”


The Wordsmyht

Petroleum engineer? Yup. But I love writing as much as I love solving complex reservoir engineering problems. Watch out for poetry. Still trying to soar the heights of prose tho' Stay tuned dearies.

3 thoughts on “Sex

  1. Great post Dami! Well done!
    Just to say, I can’t get myself to do a post on how to forget the past..I don’t think I have enough experience on that.. I just do what works for me at the moment. I do hope you understand… God’s blessings! xx


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